The Post Game Show

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

White Women, and the Black men they love?

We're almost in 2006, and I think it's safe to say that folks are indeed sexually liberated. No one is forced to hide in shame for the fact that they enjoy sex, and it shouldn't be used just to increase the population. Sexual orientation is still a big issue, but not as it was in the past. However, the sad trend of fetishizing continues, where interracial dating occurs not out of love, but just because of a reputation your partner of a different color or ethnicity has in the bedroom.

Enter Susan Crain Bakos, a middle-aged white columnist for the New York Press, who explains her reasoning for her "love" of black men
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    Among the gems from this horndog diatribe include:

    Black skin is thick and lush, sensuous to the touch, like satin and velvet made flesh.

    Even in a time when nearly 40 percent of single Americans have dated outside their race, that deliberate seeking of the specific other makes some people, especially black women, damned mad.

    They resent our taking their men. Black men are two and a half times more likely to marry a white woman than a black woman is to marry a white man. Black women can point to that statistic in justifying their wrath. But in truth, black sisters, we're after the sex, not the ring—and these guys aren't the marrying kind anyway.

    According to one school of thought, white women turn to black men when their sex drives kick into higher gear and their social inhibitions recede into the rearview mirror. It's a "yes, baby, now I'm ready for you" reaction.

    There is so much stereotype behind that column it's not even funny. I wish I had a dollar for everytime some obviously unattractive white girl thought that brothers would be knocking down her door to knock her cervix back a couple of inches. My student loans would be like Eric B. and Rakim: Paid In Full.

    It's obvious Ms. Bakos is in love not with the black man himself, but the Big Black Buck stereotype, the one that says that brothers are good for nothing but dropping our boxers and just using our genital weapons to disperse sexual pleasure to who we see fit, in this case, middle-aged white women.

    It's a sinister part of racism that most folks aren't quick to pick up on, and that's the myth that black folk screw like rabbits. Aside from our jobs as NBA and NFL players, singers/rappers, and actors, all we do is bang headboards into walls, IRRESPONSIBLY apparently, and make more illegitimate children.

    As much as Ms. Bakos fawns over the sexual abilities and overall aesthetic pleasure a black man provides, she never once mentions the stigma that is attached to interracial couples who truly love eachother, although reading this gives you the impression that's far and few in between.

    That is why interracial dating is such an issue: People do it to make a statement, not in the quest for true love. White women just want to know what it's like to get done by a black man, while brothers in turn play into that myth that caucasian members of the opposite sex are better at *ahem* oral pleasures.

    Black women, with their slow aging process and wonderfully-shaped bodies are also victims of this stereotype, mainly by white men who are tired of white women with "flat butts and sagging breasts." The wonderful thing about sistas is they aren't as quick to take the bait, if they do at all. They recognize game when they see it, no matter the color of the man that's trying to run it on them. They are aware of the past when slave owners used black women as surrogate mothers and sperm banks back in the days of slavery, and refuse to relive that nightmare voluntarily.

    Personally, I've never been with a white female, not sure if I ever will be. Although I've joked about it on several occaisions among family and friends, I know as well as anybody that there's no better woman than a black woman. No one else can nurture, care for a man, maintain a home, give good love, and a well-placed foot in the ass like a sista. And that is much more important than any white woman looking to fulfill her chocolate fantasy.


    • At 11:44 AM, Blogger jameil1922 said…

      You did this on purpose didn't you? You tried to get me all mad. I read that article and I was really shocked that she was so bold as to blatantly admit her ignorance like it was acceptable. Wow... Wow. And she thinks that's coming a long way? I'm so confused.

      And then I read your response. Nice to hear. Sometimes its hard to verbalize through the anger why I feel that way about black/white relations. Well, not really, but its hard for me to do it w/o coming off like a racist. Like you said, it all goes back to history. I don't want to be anyone's experiment. Plain and simple. I refuse.

      I'm getting used to interracial couples again b/c there are so many in Pittsburgh, but it still never ceases to amaze me how homely these white girls look. Really? There is a beautiful black woman somewhere that would love to support you and you pick Mindy for what reason? It ain't right.

    • At 1:55 PM, Blogger spchrist said…

      love should be color blind.

    • At 8:23 PM, Blogger jameil1922 said…

      yes... theoretically love SHOULD be color blind. but its not. we all know few and far between are the people who do not consider color when dating. whether its i won't date outside my race, i will, or whatever, when making those decisions you have to consider the issue of race. that's life and that's the way it is. until people truly open up about race (good luck w/that), this is what you get.

      (sorry chris! i was so intrigued by this article that not only did I send it around, but i had to come back to see what other people said!)

    • At 12:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

      As a Black man, I have dated outside of my race. I found it easy to see whether or not the female is with you because if some stereotype or because of genuine interest. I believe while race is a factor in my datng life, it is not the only factor. I try and pick women who I know I am more compatible with. I would rather date a woman outside of my race who can understand where I am coming from than a Black woman who is totally alien to the issues that are important to me.

    • At 3:10 PM, Blogger So...Wise...Sista said…

      Thanks for this link. Shock value obviously…almost like some of the perplexing ying yang interracial couples you see at the mall.

      But note to brothers with white girls…the reason sistahs are eyeballing you when you’re with your bunny…we want to make a mental note so that you don’t try to holler at us the next time we are passing through JC Penney…we are also trying to figure out if we know you (or her)…and honestly, we genuinely enjoy figuring out how much of your outfit she bought you. We’re not hating…9xs out of 10 you are simply not someone we’d be interested in. No harm.


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